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Welcome back to Transform Your Mind to Transform Your Life, the podcast. You're listening to Five Minute Fridays with Coach Mirna. Today I want to talk on the topic why healing feels harder before it feels better. So if you're on any kind of healing journey and you're thinking, why do I feel worse now that I'm finally doing the work? Let me say this clearly. Healing has not gone wrong. You are not regressing. You are in fact healing. One of the biggest lies we're told about healing is that it's supposed to feel good right away. That once we decide to heal, peace will immediately follow. But healing doesn't work like that. Healing often feels like things are getting worse before they get better. And there's a powerful reason why. And here's a story to illustrate. I once quotes a client who said something that stopped me in my tracks. She said, I think I was happier before I started working with you on this healing journey. At least I wasn't crying all the time. Crying is a sign that your healing has started. Do you know people that who can't cry? I'm sure you've heard stories of children who can't even cry at their parents' funeral. So, before healing, she was numb. She stayed busy. She avoided the silence. She didn't feel joy. But guess what? She didn't feel pain either, because that's on the opposite side. So healing didn't make her sad. Healing made her feel again. She is now in touch with her feelings again. And yes, at first the feelings were heavy. But months later, she said something totally different. She said, I can laugh now, and it reaches my eyes. I didn't even realize how long I had been numb. So healing often feels like loss before it feels like freedom, because numbness leaves before joy returns. And healing isn't about adding something new, it's about removing what's been buried. For years, sometimes decades, you survived by suppressing your pain. You minimized your trauma. You spiritualized your suffering by staying busy enough not to feel. So healing asks us to do the opposite. Healing says, slow down, feel what you've been avoiding, look at what you've survived, name what hurt you. And when you finally stop running, everything you buried comes to the surface. And that's not failure, that's excavation. You don't heal by avoiding the wound, you heal by allowing it to be seen. So many people are shocked when old memories, emotions, or even physical symptoms resurface during healing. And here's why. Your nervous system only releases trauma when it feels safe enough to do so. When you start therapy or you start coaching, when you deepen your faith or your prayer life, when you set boundaries, stop people pleasing, and leave survival mode behind, your body says, Finally, okay, now we can talk. So what feels like breakdown is often your body trusting you enough to let go. So let's be honest. Your trauma shaped parts of your identity. You may have been the strong one, the fixer, the overachiever, the one who never needed help, the one who held it all together. But what happens now that you're in the healing process, your identity of the fixer or the overachiever or the strong one is being challenged. And when an identity dies, an even unhealthy one like grief follows. So you're not just healing the pain, you're grieving. You who had to become someone else to survive what you never received from anyone else, the version of you that didn't get to be soft and a vulnerable, that grief is holy ground. So so for many believers, healing brings spiritual confusion. You might ask yourself, why didn't God stop this? Why am I still angry if I'm healed? Why does prayer feel harder right now? Healing doesn't destroy faith, it purifies it. It moves you from performative faith to honest faith, from silent suffering to surrendered truth. God, I'll endure to God, I need you. Even Jesus wept before resurrection came. So healing has a middle, and the middle is usually uncomfortable. You were no longer where you were, but you're not yet who you are becoming. So old coping mechanisms don't work anymore, and new habits feel awkward. Clarity hasn't arrived because you're in the middle of this journey, and that's where a lot of people quit, but not you. Okay. Hear this the discomfort you feel is not a sign to stop, it's a sign that oh, you're so close. All right. So when you're feeling overwhelmed, anchor yourself in these throats. Feeling is not danger. Emotions rise so they can move through you, it doesn't harm you. You don't need to heal perfectly, and progress is not linear. Grace covers the gaps, right? And it goes up and down, right? And here's something else: community matters. You're not in this alone, or at least you shouldn't be. So healing in isolation makes the pain louder, and healing with support makes it softer and lighter. So find your tribe, find your group, find your support, even if it's just one person. And remember, the God is in the healing process, not just in the outcome, but in the cheers and the confusion and the questions. The same God who walks you into the healing walks you through the mess of it. But one day you're gonna get to the other side, and that's the hard part. One day you'll notice oh, the triggers don't hit as hard. You respond instead of react. Peace lasts longer, boundaries feel natural, joy feels safe again. Not because life stopped happening, but because you're no longer bleeding internally. Healing doesn't redeem, or doesn't erase the past, it redeems it. So as we wrap up today, I want to give you some words of encouragement. If healing feels harder right now, don't turn back. You're not breaking, you're opening, you're releasing, you are becoming an other side of this discomfort, it's a version of you that no longer has to survive. Only live. So thanks for tuning in to this week's episode of Five Minute Fridays with Coach Myrna. So if you are in the healing process and any of these words that I said today resonated with you, you know, share your journey. Comment if you're watching on YouTube, comment if you're watching a clip on Instagram or Facebook. I want you to be able to get into the conversation in order to say, I am healing, right? I'm getting to the other side. And remember to like, share, and leave a review. Thanks for tuning in to this week's episode of Five Minute Fridays with Coach Mr. Until next time. Namaste.